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For many of us, a spouse, partner or significant other is the most important relationship in our lives. Yet it’s easy to grow apart, even when you live together. Here are five tips from the experts for staying close:

1. Listen, With the TV Off.
The experts agree on this point — listening, truly listening, can reduce conflict, boost trust, and lead to a more satisfying partnership. Listening may sound simple, but it requires more than being in the same room while your better half is speaking. Signal that you care by turning off the television, offering your undivided attention, and making eye contact. And don’t forget to follow up on what you hear.

This is particularly important when your partner is upset. If you listen carefully, you are more likely to understand the problem and find a way to help.

2. Focus on the Positives.
“When you first meet someone, you pay attention to all the things you like,” says Kate Wachs, PhD, a Chicago psychologist and author of Relationships for Dummies. “As time goes on, you start to take that for granted and instead you focus on what bothers you. If the relationship becomes more negative than positive, you break up.”

The solution is to make a conscious effort to focus on the things you like about your partner. “Your partner has many good qualities, as well as things that drive you crazy,” Brody says. “Look for [the positives] and drink those in. Jot them down to remember them.”

3. Stop Nagging.
Nagging not only creates tension, it usually gets you nowhere. “If you’re nagging, your partner will tune you out,” Wachs tells WebMD. “If someone isn’t giving you what you want, think about what you are doing. It’s not working. What can you do instead? Have a dialogue. … Instead of saying what you don’t like, say what you would prefer. Give alternatives

And remember to balance any criticisms with a heavy dose of positive feedback. When making a request that could be seen as nagging, take the edge off by expressing appreciation for your partner’s good qualities.

4. Spend More Time Together.
Putting “couple time” on your calendar reinforces your sense of dedication to each other. “Couples benefit when they feel commitment,” Peter A. Wish, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of Don’t Stop at Green Lights: Every Woman’s Guide to Taking Charge of Her Life and Fulfilling Her Dreams, tells WebMD. “Make these private times special by not including others.”

But don’t make the mistake of limiting your interaction to designated couple time. Try to enjoy each other’s company for at least a few minutes every day, especially first thing in the morning, at the end of the workday, and right before bed. “At those times talk about positive things,” Wachs says. “It makes a big impression.”

Make a special point of greeting each other at the end of the workday. If you’re home first, stop what you’re doing when your partner arrives and spend a moment together. “Act like [he or she] is important,” Wachs advises, “not just the postman stopping by with the mail.”

5. Touch More Often.
Physical communication is as important as emotional communication in a relationship. It relieves tension and shows your partner that you care. “Physically being in contact with your partner breaks through a lot of ice,” Wachs says. “Go out of your way to kiss and hug during the day. Always sleep together in the same bed. Just assume you’re going to have sex every night. … It’s hard to fight if you’re having great sex.”

SOURCE: medicinenet.com

Have you ever had a pretty long relationship and you just found out that the other person had another relationship with somebody else? What will you do if the one you truly love does not love you back, even after you have done all that you can to show the person how much you care, but still can’t feel his/her love for you?

The above situations can put anybody in a very bad romantic condition; it can also affect the person concerned emotionally and psychologically.

One of the best ways to avoid finding yourself in the above condition is to be sincere with your intention from the beginning of any relationship. Sincerity of intention is very important from the onset, what this simply means is that you should be very objective with your desires and requirements i.e. what you really want in the opposite sex. Most individual deliberately get themselves involved with infatuation and lust, and they would erroneously believe that they are in love.

There are some relationship compatibility issues that every one who desires an enduring relationship should not overlook. These issues have been extensively discusif you have not gotten a copy, in a report titled “Untold Secret of Enduring Relationships” you can get it here.

However, since most of the people that may find them in the above situation are those who might have overlooked some of the issues mentioned above or were not sincere with their intention from the onset. They may also consider the following suggestions:

• In as much as you can make effort to get what you want, like convincing somebody to see issues your own way, with the above situation not being an exception. You cannot force somebody to love you if he/she does not. If you do, you may soon be faced with worse situation than your present condition.
• Make some reasonable adjustment in the relationship, like holding back a little, reduce the rate at which you call or visit, if there is still any room for improvement or consideration, the other person may look for you. If not forget about the relationship and move forward.
• If it’s in a marital relationship, the above suggestion may not be easy, but you have to consider the pros and cons of continuing the relationship or quitting it, and then pick the options that best suit your desires. But, before you decide, the report mentioned above is highly recommended for you if you are married.

Whatever position you find yourself in your relationship, try to make it work, try every reasonable options before calling it quit. Here is the link to the resources that would help in moving you towards a more enduring relationship. Be compatible!